Changing the Narrative


A story all moms can relate to, I’m sure: my sweet baby girl, up from midnight until 3 a.m., not going back to sleep despite our best efforts. She was sleeping in our room at the time, so both my husband and I were awake with her, trying desperately to get her to go back to sleep. But she was wide awake. Playing, cooing, babbling to us. Finally, around 3 a.m. we finally get her back to sleep, only to be woken just three hours later at 6 a.m. to start our day.

We were tired. Irritable. Cranky. And I knew, in that moment, that we had a choice. The choice to let that exhaustion dictate our day. To go through the day frustrated & exhausted, gritting our teeth and baring it, anxious awaiting nap time & bedtime.

Or…. OR we could choose to change the narrative. We could choose to shift the atmosphere of our home and our day. We can’t always control if the day (or night) goes our way, but we can choose whether or not it steals our joy. We can choose how we respond & react to it.

So that morning, despite our exhaustion, despite wanting to crawl back into bed, we chose to change the narrative. We went out for a walk, got some fresh air and sunshine. We walked to the nearest Starbucks and got some coffees. We listened to worship music and let the girls run around the trail & park, and enjoyed our time as a family.

And guess what? It totally shifted our moods, and was such a beautiful start to our day. I actually felt less tired afterwards, and felt more connected to my family.

Sometimes we just need to stop and take a moment to recalibrate. To adjust our attitude and our perspective. To pause, breathe, and choose joy. Whatever that looks like for you. We all recalibrate differently, but find what works for you. Because we really have so much power to shift the atmosphere of our day and even the atmosphere in our homes. If we’re tired, cranky, and irritable — can we really be shocked when it rubs off on our children? 

[Love…It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged] — 1 Corinthians 13:5

I know firsthand how hard it is to snap out of it and adjust my attitude. There are many days when I let my exhaustion & frustration get the best of me, because this season with littles is just really hard some days. But I also know it is so worth the extra effort to change my narrative!

One of the first things I do is tell myself “I’m energized, joyful, and today is going to be a good day.” Even If I don’t necessarily feel it in the moment, I’d much rather choose that narrative than “today is the worst. I’m exhausted. My kid’s are driving me crazy, and nothing is going how I want it to.” It’s just simply choosing to speak life & positivity over your day, rather than declaring defeat. A few other simple things I do to shift the atmosphere of my home is to make it a point to put on some worship music — worship helps us connect to God and ground ourselves in who He is and whose we are. It can help you release the frustration you’re holding onto and help lift your spirit. I even like to light a candle or diffuse oils, just little things that help me adjust my attitude and therefore shift the atmosphere of my home.

And, I want to leave you with this. Just know… for all the many times we might fail at this, and we’ve let another weary day slip by, remember: there is so much grace, and His mercies are new every morning… so simply try try again.